User blog comment:Kashicorn/SURRENDERING/@comment-4131177-20130311184811/@comment-4131177-20130313073252

@180.191.84.241:

I adressed your point. Read it thoroughly. They do not expect to play bad. In fact, if they knew they would play bad, they would probably not even play the game, because they are looking for success moments.

@132.190.92.85:

So, i see where you are going.

But now take the whole situation from a different angle. Please, try to follow me.

Imagine now your best friend comes over. He tells you how he failed his last test and is going to be kicked out of college, and his strict parents are now mad at him and told him he is a shame for the family and they say he has 2 weeks to move out of the house because they dont want him anymore. In short, is really down. Now, he sits right next to you, and you try to cheer him up by playing some game with him. Any game. The game doesnt run well for him, and though he is usually a calm person he suddenly starts getting mad and overreacting and throws over the entire board of the game.

I am not sure what you do if your best friend would do that. But if my best friend would do that, i would try to calm him down and cheer him up, and the very last thing i would do would be saying "fuck you, i got trouble myself, why do you annoy me with your bad mood, i fucking hate you!"

Do you still agree with me to this point? If not: you are a horrible person.

How is this anonymous person on the internet any worse than your best friend? You said it yourself: you are a human being, just like him, and he is a human being, just like you. Noone deserves to feel bad. Noone enjoys to feel bad. Yes, i agree that venting your anger is NOT a good thing to do, but flaming back then helps noone! He feels even worse, you start venting yourself (which we agree upon is a bad thing, so you are basically downgrading yourself to his "level"), the other 3 people in the team get stressed too, teamplay impossible, GG.

Instead you try to calm him. It means there is 1 stress-factor less in the team (thats you), your positive attitude will inspire the rest of your team and counteract to the stress that the venting player puts on them, and there is even a (not-so-low) chance that the venting player himself will calm down. It is not only better from a human point of view, but also from a strategic point of view, as it will increase your win chances by a great margin.