User blog comment:Kashicorn/SURRENDERING/@comment-4131177-20130311184811/@comment-4131177-20130313180436

Well, "softenning" my heart increased my elo by 300, saved me a lot of depressing game moments, and probably cheered up a few dozen people. And i became much more calm in game, and very resistent to "being flamed" myself. There is absolutely no reason to "turn hard". When you are nice to people, no matter what they throw at you, then they start trusting you, and trust wins you games single-handed.

Just go back 15 years. 15 years ago, the internet was a wonderful place. I played Diablo 1, and the amount of flamers, trolls, toxic people was so damn small, i saw maybe one or two each month. And everyone had the mindset i have: be nice to others, because there is a human being on the other side.

And, as i said before: '''their original intent is not to vent. Their original intent is to have fun.''' When you feel bad, you lack the ability to evaluate situations. They do. You do. Maybe YOU are venting your stress in league by flaming back, but you do not even realise it? That's what i am talking about. The ones venting mostly don't even know THAT they are venting. So you can't blame them. Maybe you are one of them and don't even know it.

You can't tell me that you enjoy the flame wars. If you do: keep enjoying them. If you don't: maybe overthink your attitude and enjoy your free ticket out of league hell.